A Few Questions About You and Your Mother

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Which best describes where you are right now?

I understand my patterns from therapy or books, but I still react the same way when my mother calls or criticises me

After contact or conflict with my mother, I crash for days and can't focus, sleep or work properly

I can't say no or set a boundary with her without overwhelming guilt

I keep ending up in relationships where I over-give and don't get cared for back

I'm grieving the mother I needed and never had, even though she's still here

Something else (tell me in the last question)

Which best describes the outcome you would love to achieve?

To be okay with my mother, and have contact without it taking over my week

To say no and hold a boundary without feeling guilty

To feel steady instead of falling apart after every hard conversation

To stop waiting for her to change and focus on my own life

To feel cared for, by myself and in my relationships, instead of always being the one who gives

Something else (tell me in the last question)

Which best describes the biggest obstacle that has stopped you getting there?

Therapy helped me understand it, but talking about it hasn't changed it

I don't know what to actually do, step by step

I've been doing this alone, and no one around me really gets it

I start, then guilt or life pulls me back into old patterns

I haven't found the right person or the time to work on it

Something else (tell me in the last question)

If a clear, supported programme to help you with this was available, what investment would suit your budget?

Under $200

$200 to $600

$600 to $1,500

$1,500 to $3,500

$3,500 or more

Have you tried anything that didn't work? (therapy, books, courses, apps or groups)

Do you currently spend money on support for this? If so, on what, and roughly how much?

Is there anything else you'd like me to know?

I'm happy for Natalie to contact me about this

A few questions about you and your mother